Many people who come to me feel this way:

→ You lie close to her and feel how it could be really nice, but instead of relaxing, you start thinking about how you are perceived, if you seem too passive, if she thinks you are not enjoying yourself, if you should react more strongly or say something, just so that she does not lose interest.

→ You sit opposite him and share something that is important to you, but the moment he falls silent, you start wondering if you said too much, if you should back off, if he now thinks differently about you and instead of feeling relief after being honest, you are filled with anxiety.  

→ You notice that you are often the one holding the line - sending messages, suggesting you meet, asking questions - and even though you long for someone else to take the initiative for once, you keep going anyway, because as soon as the other person goes silent or doesn't suggest anything themselves, you start to wonder if you mean anything at all to them.  

→ You feel your body tense up when the man you're dancing with gets really close to you and you know he wants to take you home, and part of you longs to say yes but the words won't come out.  

→ You want to let go and open up but are anxious, your heart is racing and you start to feel scared. It's like you're not looking her in the eye, you're looking past her face and you know you're not connecting with her because the anxiety is rising in your throat.  

→ You want to feel close, but as soon as he touches you with more presence, your heart races and your body pulls back. A voice in your head says you should respond more— because if you don’t show enough pleasure, he might lose interest

→ You sent a message that felt warm and honest, but when no response comes right away, you start to feel in your body as if something is wrong, as if he has already pulled away and you start to read the conversation over and over again to understand what you might have said that became too much.  

→ You write a message telling him how much you appreciated your time together, and right afterwards the panic sets in - what if it was too
much, what if you scared him away, and you start thinking about sending another one toning down what you just said.  

→ You just want to enjoy yourself, but notice how you keep trying to feel more, react 'sexy' enough, show that you are present while analyzing every moment and wondering if you are doing it right.

HOW THE INTIMACY PATH WORKS:

I have worked with people who have been trying for months or years, but who still couldn’t fully receive pleasure, relax into touch, or stay present in those moments. They were thoughtful, self-aware, and still felt stuck.

When we work together, it changes. Not overnight but step by step and it changes deeply.  
This is a method that takes you through the body, the emotions and the relationships and provides a stable foundation that you can trust.  

You stop struggling to hold yourself together in sexual and vulnerable moments.
You find your way back to the place in you where you feel fully at home – and you trust yourself, even when it feels vulnerable.
What you build lasts and you feel it in your whole body.    

I guide you through a clear process. We take one step at a time. This allows you to land safely in what is awakened and move forward, even when it feels unfamiliar.
You don't have to carry everything yourself anymore.  

Others who have walked this path have:
- Felt what sex can be like when the body is alive, receptive and doesn't shut down as soon as someone gets close.
- Dared to say "I want this" straight out, without apologizing, wrapping it up in a bow or trying to reassure the other person that it's okay.
- Stopped pretending that something feels good to keep their partner close and instead asked for what they actually feel, want and enjoy.
- Felt that they can stay present in a look, a caress, a movement without starting to think about what the other person feels or withdrawing.
- Discovered that they don't have to perform during sex to be chosen -- they can have sex from pleasure instead.
- Stopped feeling responsible for keeping the conversation going or managing the mood— and instead, they let themselves lean into the arms of someone who genuinely wanted them, without immediately worrying about what they needed to give in return.
- Returned to their own rhythm in intimate encounters and not the rhythm they tried to perform so that the relationship would not change.
- Let themselves feel strong, open and fully expressed without adapting or dimming down.
- Landed in the body with a feeling of: "I am here now. I want to. I dare. I can receive pleasure."  

This is possible for you too. When I guide you with compassion, clarity and presence into what you otherwise run away from, you can finally stay in the closeness, love and sexuality you have longed for so long.

Phase 1

Rest in your body without wanting to escape

• Before you can enjoy and relax during sex or be close to someone without losing yourself – you need to be able to stay in your body, even in stillness.

• We start here: by slowing down and helping your body shift out of the state where everything feels tense, shut down, or like you’re stuck in your head.

• You get support to stay – even when it feels uncomfortable – and find a way to land without needing to get up, check out, or shut down what you're feeling.

• This allows you to begin feeling more present, so intimacy no longer feels like something you need to protect yourself from.

Phase 2

Remain within yourself in closeness and pleasure

• Here you increase your capacity to remain in emotions, in sexual energy and in contact with someone else.

• You have built a secure foundation in your body but may still have difficulty maintaining closeness when things become vulnerable, emotionally intense or when sexuality is aroused.

• Old patterns of adapting, withdrawing or taking responsibility for other people's feelings may still remain.

• In this phase you begin to feel what you actually want and dare to stand by it. You can express your needs without explaining them away and remain in both sexual and emotional closeness without losing yourself.

Phase 3

Feel loved without having to perform

• You have built security in your body and dare to be close – but when someone really sees you, especially in intimate situations, doubts can come.

• You begin to question whether you are good enough, whether you are sufficient, whether you have to perform to be loved.

• In this phase, you receive support to face the old shame, let go of the demands of being perfect and begin to rest in the fact that you do not have to do anything to be worthy of love.

• You get in touch with your power and sexuality without guilt and begin to feel that you can be whole in the encounter with another.

• This is where you remain when love feels close, vulnerable or uncertain. You begin to feel that you can be loved without losing yourself.

Phase 4

Feel free, alive and at home within yourself

• When you feel safe in yourself and in close contact, the next step opens up, to let your vitality and sensuality take up more space.

• This is about letting go of control and following what feels alive in your body. You dare to move, express yourself and enjoy without analyzing or holding back.

• Intimacy becomes a place where you can rest and play, without fear of losing yourself.

• You begin to follow your own rhythm in relationships as well and notice that closeness and pleasure can be natural parts of your life without you having to resist or adapt.

• You experience closeness, sexuality and freedom as a natural part of who you are.

Here's how it works:

Hi! I am Sandra Bergman

As an experienced intimacy coach and tantra teacher, I understand the challenges you face because I've been there too. I had the same longing for deep emotional connection and sexual satisfaction and felt the frustration of my inability to open up to it.

It's also what made me train as a sexsibility coach in 2009 and then continue to study around the world with some of the most influential teachers in tantra and sexuality, such as Layla Martin and Ma Ananda Sarita.

I know how hard it feels to stay when your whole body just wants to escape and I know how powerful it is to have someone guiding you back to yourself.

So that's what I do, I hold you where you would normally stay and turn around.

If you feel like this is the support you've been waiting for but want to talk to me before you decide, book a call with me.